Families

I saw an excellent documentary last night called The Boys.  It's the story of Bob and Richard Sherman. These guys were brothers. They wrote pretty much every popular Walt Disney musical song there was after Mary Poppins.  Including It's a Small World This song is heard on the small world ride in the Disney theme parks.  The general gist of this documentary that was created by their own sons was why these extremely talented men could work together so well but not get along.  I must say I think it is a shame they weren't closer as a family but I understand completely.  FAMILY DRIVES US CRAZY.  

I come from a family crazier than a lot of them.  I have already talked about my dad and his issues.  My mom is not from this country.  She was not supposed to have me it was too dangerous for her.  She was 22 when she married my dad.  turns out she really did not want to be married.  She left my father when I was around 10 and when she settled with a new man some 2 or 3 years later she asked me to live with her and I refused.

It was not a difficult decision.  My mom never believed I could do much yet she did not want to be responsible for my care.  My dad believed I could do almost anything.  He was also the one who went to all my doctors appointments.  My mom cried and blamed herself.  My mom has her own disabling conditions now.  She has back issues and diabetes.  My brother manages her care.  She drives him crazy.  He lives with my mom. His girlfriend also has a disabling condition.  It drives him crazy.  I am here. I am with my care provider,in peace.  See why I don't want to give up my home.  

In the end family is family.  They make you nuts.  They have their addictions and issues.  You have yours.  I think we are conditioned to want our own spaces and have our own lives.  Some of us accomplish that better than others