Dating

I was going to talk about something else today.  But something happened and I decided to talk a little about online dating.  Several people I hear have success with online dating.   It has potential but people with disabilities have all kinds of special concerns.  For example if you meet online or your disability is not obvious do you tell them?  There are several people out there who will date someone just for a roof and a regular disability check so we always have to worry about that. If the relationship turns sexual is that something you want to do?  Can you express yourself sexually and be safe from unwanted pregnancy and disease? Then we have the same thing everyone else has to worry about.  What kind of relationship do you want?  Is this relationship going to be successful?

Let me tell you that I am no expert in dating.  However I know what I want.  I want someone who's looking to be in a relationship.  I want someone who makes me laugh.  I want someone who enjoys talking with me.  Not just to become what I want, he talks to me because he likes my company.  The relationship does not get sexual until I am comfortable with it.  When all those criteria are met and I return them is when I can be in a relationship.

I have a few rules I use to decide.

• If he/she comes on strong and does not back off when you ask- run! or wheel away as fast as you can.
• If he or she starts asking for money even though you only get disability -run or wheel away as fast as you can.
• If he wants to take care of you and you've been fine on your own-run or wheel away as fast as you can.
• If he likes to brag about everything he has (but looks like he's homeless)- run or wheel away as fast as you can!

If he talks to you, makes you laugh, tries to hear about all your stuff and tells you about his, then maybe he's a nice guy.  I've met a few of them (they never seem to be interested back) but here's hoping.  To the guy who talks to me on Facebook.  If you are reading this, back off! Be my friend first.  If you are what I am looking for it will take time for me to get there.  I am not looking for a better half just a special love. 

Good luck, Please be careful and smart, and take care